A Question About Marital Status in This Hobby...and Moving with a HT

[kelsci]

John and Piece-it-Pete; I appreciate your sympathy on my late girlfriend. It is now 3 l/2 years since she is gone. When you loose that somebody you fell in love with, after a period of time, you look at the pictures and begin to say; did it all really happen? Worse then pictures are home videos made in stereo yet with rather good audio quality. It literally sounds like time has been frozen on those tapes. I use to be a great advocate of documentation of ones lives; now I am not too sure that is all so good.

John; so your girlfriend went to Florida. I live in Margate, Fl. On an internet map, the coordinates of N.W. 76th ave and Margate Blvd will show where I live. She had some cold weather to hit here. When the 50s and 60s are your temperatures after you lived here awhile, it is cold. It is going to first start to warm up today. I think it is a good idea for you to go to Vegas to see your family. I understand Vegas is up and coming so your future move may be a good one. By the way, I am orginally from the Bronx and Queens Village, New York. On a map, the coordinates were 229th street and Hillside Ave.

These days, thirty is not old. There were periods of years that I did not go out yet at the age of 38 it took me less than one minute to fall in love with my gal of 14 years. So I come from the school who sees that IF IT IS MEANT TO BE, IT IS MEANT TO BE. Even if you meet and marry somebody down the road, you may be the one listening to the home theater alone in your house. Your wife may carry on different interests. That went on with me and my girlfriend. One thing I did do was spend quality time with her when I was not doodling with the HT. She admired me for what I did in the HT arena and I admired her in her own spheres of influence. Currently, you seem to have a casual relationship with this girl. If you are moving out west, that relationship may end. If you think it is going to end, then I would start thinking about what social avenues to take when you are out in Vegas particulaly in the areas of Vegas that are going to be with permanent settlers and not out of town tourists that hit the hotels. If I come up with anything in my resistor-capacitor related mind dealing with Vegas, I notify you thru private message. KELSCI

[hmmmm]

My point in saying going to the gym is my way of saying to pick yourself up by the bootstraps and get busy. Life is tough at times...we all know that, but sometimes you just need to get out there and try to make the best of things. I've had about the worst year in my life for many, many reasons I won't go into. Everything will fall into place when the time is right. It won't happen sitting in front of a computer or t.v. Of course I'm taking a lot of cold medicine right now so I may not be making much sense.
Take what you need and leave the rest (a friend of mine always says).

[John Beresford]

My point in saying going to the gym is my way of saying to pick yourself up by the bootstraps and get busy. Life is tough at times...we all know that, but sometimes you just need to get out there and try to make the best of things. I've had about the worst year in my life for many, many reasons I won't go into. Everything will fall into place when the time is right. It won't happen sitting in front of a computer or t.v. Of course I'm taking a lot of cold medicine right now so I may not be making much sense.
Take what you need and leave the rest (a friend of mine always says).

I hear you; understandable. And I know that things wont happen by not getting out there -- I know that. But I have tried the internet for many, many years....sure, I found dates, flings, and even relationships thanks to the singles websites out there. I didnt plan on locking myself in a room and watching DVDs forever, expecting something to knock on my door....in all fairness, however, they say that you are supposed to meet the person you are supposed to be with by pure chance when you are not expecting it, or not "putting yourself out there."

But nothing seemed to last with the internet women I met. Its making me think perhaps 30 is too late to find true companionship.

Hope you feel better, BTW.

[John Beresford]

John and Piece-it-Pete; I appreciate your sympathy on my late girlfriend. It is now 3 l/2 years since she is gone. When you loose that somebody you fell in love with, after a period of time, you look at the pictures and begin to say; did it all really happen? Worse then pictures are home videos made in stereo yet with rather good audio quality. It literally sounds like time has been frozen on those tapes. I use to be a great advocate of documentation of ones lives; now I am not too sure that is all so good.

John; so your girlfriend went to Florida. I live in Margate, Fl. On an internet map, the coordinates of N.W. 76th ave and Margate Blvd will show where I live. She had some cold weather to hit here. When the 50s and 60s are your temperatures after you lived here awhile, it is cold. It is going to first start to warm up today. I think it is a good idea for you to go to Vegas to see your family. I understand Vegas is up and coming so your future move may be a good one. By the way, I am orginally from the Bronx and Queens Village, New York. On a map, the coordinates were 229th street and Hillside Ave.

These days, thirty is not old. There were periods of years that I did not go out yet at the age of 38 it took me less than one minute to fall in love with my gal of 14 years. So I come from the school who sees that IF IT IS MEANT TO BE, IT IS MEANT TO BE. Even if you meet and marry somebody down the road, you may be the one listening to the home theater alone in your house. Your wife may carry on different interests. That went on with me and my girlfriend. One thing I did do was spend quality time with her when I was not doodling with the HT. She admired me for what I did in the HT arena and I admired her in her own spheres of influence. Currently, you seem to have a casual relationship with this girl. If you are moving out west, that relationship may end. If you think it is going to end, then I would start thinking about what social avenues to take when you are out in Vegas particulaly in the areas of Vegas that are going to be with permanent settlers and not out of town tourists that hit the hotels. If I come up with anything in my resistor-capacitor related mind dealing with Vegas, I notify you thru private message. KELSCI

Kel,

Thanks again for your heartfelt feelings on my subjects; they are always appreciated.

Queens Village, huh? I live in Nassau, in Rockville Centre, not too far from Queens...this girl I was dating actually lived in Little Neck, Queens, downstairs from her friend...my best friend, who also recently moved to Tampa, Florida, lived in Glendale, Queens...not too far from you! How ironic.

Anyway, yes, she went to Florida, but only to visit for a few weeks----what bothers me is that, even though I had to work, she went ahead and made these plans without even caring about me or what I would do here without her----she knows Im alone here, with no family and no single friends, and she went ahead and made plans to stay in Florida until well after New Years...I mean, we are going out a year and she does something like that? And she sees NOTHING wrong with what she did; her argument is "I am going to see my parents who I havent had a Christmas or New Years with in over seven years...." yet, as the boyfriend, I am left by myself for New Years; I dont think that was right. She ditched me last new years because her friend "needed her"....I dont know how to feel about all this; I am resentful toward her for treating me this way, but also understand her family asked her to be with them for the holidays especially since she's not working right now. So thats the reason why I made plans to see MY parents for New Years week; I didnt really wanna be alone that week, you know? But the RIGHT woman wouldnt put me through these separation issues, would she?

My plan to move west isnt really "final" yet; I am still deciding if thats where I want to end up; its more like a last-resort choice because I dont really feel like anythings working out for me here....my friends are all idiots or are married, I dont really have anything holding me here, and Im on the fence.

As for her, she made it clear that someday, she wants to end up in Florida because obvioulsy thats where her family is, and also, she has property down there that her parents bought her, and all she would have to do is build a house on it. With what money she is going to do that with, I dont know. Do you think moving away from here just to be closer with family because nothing else is quite working out for me in New York is a smart move?