A Question About Marital Status in This Hobby...and Moving with a HT

[Tarheel_]

a new direction i see, well i'll bite because having a wife that cannot appreciate good sound, but loves to see me excited about new equipment is nothing short of awesome.
I'm 34, been in HT since 99, and since then have spent close to 12k on audio/video gear.
Does she like my floorstanding F30s (finish doesn't match room) or 50" RPTV in her well decorated living room? No, but she tolerates it nonetheless because its my hobby and is much better than going out burning money on strippers and such.

Finding someone who accepts you is more important than finding someone who enjoys surround sound. The former will accept the latter.

Good luck and Merry Christmas to all on this board!!!

[John Beresford]

a new direction i see, well i'll bite because having a wife that cannot appreciate good sound, but loves to see me excited about new equipment is nothing short of awesome.
I'm 34, been in HT since 99, and since then have spent close to 12k on audio/video gear.
Does she like my floorstanding F30s (finish doesn't match room) or 50" RPTV in her well decorated living room? No, but she tolerates it nonetheless because its my hobby and is much better than going out burning money on strippers and such.

Finding someone who accepts you is more important than finding someone who enjoys surround sound. The former will accept the latter.

Good luck and Merry Christmas to all on this board!!!

Tar,

I have given up on the possibility of meeting a woman who would be into surround sound (although the "girlfriend" I have now likes to watch DVDs in surround with me and comment on the sound, etc; she is a DVD collector more than being into them for the sound) and now I am searching for exactly what you describe: someone to accept me for ME.

Peace be upon you and your family as well....

[kelsci]

John; I am out of anymore thoughts and suggestions for you. I must appreciate the other members of this board who posted after me(JSE, WORFSTER, ETC) of their situations and suggestions that they have given you. JSE's "crutch" theory could be what is going on here. I think you should have a good TALK with her after you and her return to New York and see where this is going. My late gal believed in COMMUNICATION within the relationship and I concurred with her from my own observations of married couples with-in my family.

I noticed one thing during my life. Usually, when I met somebody and occasionally dated, it was the girls from the midwest that were the most friendly. Do not worry about being Jewish unless you follow concervative or orthodox philosophies. I have heard of so many mix marriages that the religious factor does not seem to matter. All these couples care is having a good marriage and a good family. My late girlfriends niece's marriage is mixed and it is going fine. Both she and her husband have Doctorates and their 2nd child arrived about two weeks ago. With celebrieties, take Jerry Stiller and Ann Meara. "worked out good for them. KELSCI

[kelsci]

John; I watched IT'S A WONDERFUL LIFE on NBC network. I stumbled onto this film on ch 5 in New York around 1966 only catching the last 40 minutes or so at that time. Watching it the other day made me think about you and your current girlfriend. The interelationship between James Stewart and Donna Reed as their love story unfolds through events in this film is nothing short of astounding and quite believeable. This to me is how two stranagers fall in love. I have heard a saying that RAIDERS OF THE LOST ARK is the greatest serial Republic Pictures never made. I.A.W.L., in my opinion is the greatest Twilight Zone episode, Rod Serling never produced and wrote. I.A.W.L. IMO is a film of epic proportions that took many years to get its due. Perhaps what makes it so great that it is the story of love and the sacrifice of love and its importance on the lives of others. I consider it the #1 A movie of all time.

[John Beresford]

John; I am out of anymore thoughts and suggestions for you. I must appreciate the other members of this board who posted after me(JSE, WORFSTER, ETC) of their situations and suggestions that they have given you. JSE's "crutch" theory could be what is going on here. I think you should have a good TALK with her after you and her return to New York and see where this is going. My late gal believed in COMMUNICATION within the relationship and I concurred with her from my own observations of married couples with-in my family.

I noticed one thing during my life. Usually, when I met somebody and occasionally dated, it was the girls from the midwest that were the most friendly. Do not worry about being Jewish unless you follow concervative or orthodox philosophies. I have heard of so many mix marriages that the religious factor does not seem to matter. All these couples care is having a good marriage and a good family. My late girlfriends niece's marriage is mixed and it is going fine. Both she and her husband have Doctorates and their 2nd child arrived about two weeks ago. With celebrieties, take Jerry Stiller and Ann Meara. "worked out good for them. KELSCI

Kel,

I guess I will talk with her, but the talks go nowhere; she claims she just CANNOT speed up the divorce process any more than it is going; thats what SHE claims. I feel like Im wasting my time at this point; why even come back to NY? Perhaps, as friends and friends' parents are advising me, it is a good time to move to where my folks are and try and begin a new life with nicer, less depressing surroundings.

The whole Jewish/non Jewish thing is not a concern for me; I am leaving tonight for Vegas to see my parents for New Years. Have a great New Years, all.