I am 32. I met my wife when I was 26, I got married in 1998 in the United Kingdom and have since moved to the USA. I met my wife on the internet in the yahoo chat rooms. Before we met my life was HT, but in those days it was more Laserdisc vs VHS and Dolby pro logic. Most of my money went on videogames and the boys came round each and every night for games on mariokart.

When I was 20+ I always thought who was the one for me? I would stay indoors alot playing games and watching movies in surround sound. It attracted alot of guys round my house but none of the opposite sex. So I went onto yahoo chat rooms to find women to chat to and find out what makes them tick. Within a few months I had 2 or 3 lady companions who didnt want to lose contact. They all lived in the USA for some reason.

In essense, I got to know a few ladies, but I knew I had distance and I was not committed. It did to some extent take me further away from society, but it also felt good to know that someone was waiting for my phone call or to get on the computer. I still let the boys come in for games on mariokart, and I had my lady friends. I would go to the pub a few times a week and sit down with ladies who were drunk or tipsy and have a laugh.. you never know you might get a telephone number.

There is not a right or wrong way to find a woman. When you eventually do find a lady, you will find that you have somehow being blessed and a hoard of women with bombard you with requests to take them out. At which point you will say "sorry, im taken".. Then you will realize that they were always in the exact same boat as you were when you read this.

In the meantime, do what you enjoy most. Don't isolate yourself from society and don't be shy to dance or tell someone they look nice..

Amen.