I was going to suggest the same thing that Barry mentioned; have an attorney draft a letter advising them about the lack of any policy regarding internet usage and about your boss sending you porno. I think the very thought of having to go to court will make them sit up and take notice. It won't cost you very much and it certainly can't hurt.

I went through a situation with an employer years ago and, had I known then what I know now, I could have cashed in pretty big. While I wasn't fired, I was passed over for a big promotion by some a-hole who hand-picked a woman with almost no qualifications who was with our company less than 2 years (I was there 9 years and was the top performing manager in the district while she was near the bottom). She was promoted merely because she was a woman and we lacked female managers at that level. Anyway, they did me a favor because I quit within a few months, went into the mortgage business on a commission sales basis and doubled my income within a year.

Regardless of what happens, I wish you the best of luck with the carpentry and all. Good carpenters in my area are hard to find, although I know one of the best in my area and he makes a very good living, as he should.

Like Finchy, I'm also not a religious person, but I'll keep a good thought for you, your wife and new baby, and let me know if I can be of any help otherwise.

Regards,
Swish