What's a "Reputation"?

[ForeverAutumn]

I went in my User Control Panel this afternoon and found that I had a reputation (who knew!?). It was awarded to me on April 13 at 4:57pm. I have 11 points. It appears to be due to the Rave Recs thread about our Top 10 Desert Island albums.

So what does this mean? Are these 11 points good or bad? Can I buy stuff with them? When did we start rating each other's reputations?

[GMichael]

I went in my User Control Panel this afternoon and found that I had a reputation (who knew!?). It was awarded to me on April 13 at 4:57pm. I have 11 points. It appears to be due to the Rave Recs thread about our Top 10 Desert Island albums.

So what does this mean? Are these 11 points good or bad? Can I buy stuff with them? When did we start rating each other's reputations?

A reputation for girls is different than one for a guy. The double standards are in full play here. Although, these days it's reversed. A girl with (let's say) high mileage is worth more than one who's only been around the block once or twice.
11 points are good. No, you can't buy anything with them. (NOT EVEN SHOES!) But you may be able to barter for more if you play your cards right.
Just a few weeks ago. Ericl made note of it. You may have been out that day.

[L.J.]

A reputation for girls is different than one for a guy. The double standards are in full play here. Although, these days it's reversed. A girl with (let's say) high mileage is worth more than one who's only been around the block once or twice.

[ForeverAutumn]

A reputation for girls is different than one for a guy. The double standards are in full play here. Although, these days it's reversed. A girl with (let's say) high mileage is worth more than one who's only been around the block once or twice.
11 points are good. No, you can't buy anything with them. (NOT EVEN SHOES!) But you may be able to barter for more if you play your cards right.
Just a few weeks ago. Ericl made note of it. You may have been out that day.

If I can't use these points to buy shoes (or, at least, an Audio Review T-shirt) then why do I care???

And there's a little blue box beside markw's comments. Does that mean that he gave me a bad reputation? Did I lose points (not that I care)?

How does the point system work? Earlier today I had one comment and 11 points. Now I have 4 comments and 27 points. The math doesn't work (unless markw took points away from me). Again...not that I care.

Where did Ericl make note of it? I missed it. Was it on this board or another? (I care about that 'cause I hate not knowing stuff).

[markw]

If I can't use these points to buy shoes (or, at least, an Audio Review T-shirt) then why do I care???

And there's a little blue box beside markw's comments. Does that mean that he gave me a bad reputation? Did I lose points (not that I care)?

How does the point system work? Earlier today I had one comment and 11 points. Now I have 4 comments and 27 points. The math doesn't work (unless markw took points away from me). Again...not that I care.

Where did Ericl make note of it? I missed it. Was it on this board or another? (I care about that 'cause I hate not knowing stuff).

On other sites, they show up green for a good rep and red for a bad rep. That's the same here, but it seems that, for some reason, some "good" reps show up as grey.

Trust me, I didn't slam you. I gave you a good rep (clicked the "I approve" button) and a comment to welcome you. One of those 27 points is the one I gave you.

[kexodusc]

One of those 27 points is the one I gave you.

The other 26 are all me....how's that for back scratchin?

[ForeverAutumn]

On other sites, they show up green for a good rep and red for a bad rep. That's the same here, but it seems that, for some reason, some "good" reps show up as grey.

Trust me, I didn't slam you. I gave you a good rep (clicked the "I approve" button) and a comment to welcome you. One of those 27 points is the one I gave you.

Thanks Mark. I didn't think that you would intentionally slam me, but didn't know why your's was the only one that wasn't green. The grey ones must be extra special.

The other 26 are all me....how's that for back scratchin?

Mmmmmm. A little to the left. That's it.

[Dusty Chalk]

Where did Ericl make note of it?

Here.

[GMichael]

It's not a "point per comment" system. Members with more posts, count higher than newbies. New members with less than some unknown number of posts can only leave grey dots.

[markw]

It's not a "point per comment" system. Members with more posts, count higher than newbies. New members with less than some unknown number of posts can only leave grey dots.

Inquiring minds want to know...

[kexodusc]

Hmmm, how do we see how many rep points we have? And how do i raise or lower it?
A man's got nothin' without his rep....

Ha ha, I just gave you guys reputation points I think....you earned...from now on, every Lost thread post gets a point...unless there's too much talking and I get lazy.

[GMichael]

Hmmm, how do we see how many rep points we have? And how do i raise or lower it?
A man's got nothin' without his rep....

Click on user CP in the upper left.
Then down to Latest Reputation Received.
No way to change your own. You'll need someone to scratch your back for you.

[kexodusc]

Click on user CP in the upper left.
Then down to Latest Reputation Received.
No way to change your own. You'll need someone to scratch your back for you.

Great, so a little bit of mutual masturbation will artificially inflate an arbitrary point scheme system that I can't even see? Sign me up buddy!

[ForeverAutumn]

Great, so a little bit of mutual masturbation will artificially inflate an arbitrary point scheme system that I can't even see? Sign me up buddy!

Can you guys take this to the other side of the beach please. I don't care if it's only artificially inflated...no-one here needs to see that.

[daviethek]

Can you guys take this to the other side of the beach please. I don't care if it's only artificially inflated...no-one here needs to see that.

.........Some of the fellas here may actually use artificial inflation.

[ForeverAutumn]

Thanks guys.

I think it would be more fun if you could see who gave you the reputation (good or bad) without relying on the comments section. But then again....I could give you all bad reps and you wouldn't know it was me. teeheehee.

[GMichael]

Thanks guys.

I think it would be more fun if you could see who gave you the reputation (good or bad) without relying on the comments section. But then again....I could give you all bad reps and you wouldn't know it was me. teeheehee.

I would know. My ESP is tuned in very sharp today.

Hey! Put that finger DOWN!

[Dusty Chalk]

Thanks guys.

I think it would be more fun if you could see who gave you the reputation (good or bad) without relying on the comments section. But then again....I could give you all bad reps and you wouldn't know it was me. teeheehee.

I think it's better that it's unknown. It could very quickly turn into a Simpson group-shock-therapy type brawl if we knew who gave out what.

"What, you gave me negative points? I'll show you. And you're friends, too, just for associating with you. And him, just because his name reminds me too much of yours."

[nobody]

All I know is Joan Jett "don't give a damn 'bout her reputation."

[ForeverAutumn]

Well, this thread certainly has taken an interesting turn.

In regards to the phrase Lady, I have no problem with it. I think that it is a statement of respect. I see nothing sexist about it. And I venture to call men Gentlemen on a rather frequent basis. But only if they are deserving of my respect. I understand what Bernd is saying, but I don't know of a non-gender word that could replace lady and gentleman, so those are the words that I use.

Even the slang words like wench, b!tch, or ho, I don't find sexist. I find them degrading. The attitude with which they are said is probably sexist, but the words are only words.

What I do find sexist is when I'm referred to in my husband's name...Mrs. John Smith (no, his name isn't really John Smith ). Especially, since I didn't take on his last name when we got married. I find that tradition of a woman changing her name highly sexist, as though she doesn't deserve her own identity. I told my Hubby that if he wanted us to have the same name, he was welcome to change his. He chose to keep his maiden name.

I don't mind when someone holds open the door for me. It's just a nice gesture. And I always say Thank You. I often hold the door open for other people...men and women. I get mad if they don't thank me for doing so (and I usually yell YOU'RE WELCOME after them, to let them know that they were rude).

Sexism is an attitude and it goes both ways. I think that it's sexist for a woman to expect a man to open a door for her, or to pay for dinner, etc, just because he's a man.

I used to call myself a feminist. Now I call myself a humanist. Treat me (and everyone) with respect and I'll treat you the same way. Cross the line and either I'll ignore you or you'll feel my wrath...depending on my mood. Luckily, lines aren't crossed too often on this site (or maybe I'm just not easily offended). I think that, for the most part, we all respect each other. And if we don't, then we are at least respectful of each other.

And while I appreciate markw's sentiment in calling me a lady and being concerned that I was offended, there was nothing to read into my comment. I was just making a joke.

[Bernd]

Well, this thread certainly has taken an interesting turn.

In regards to the phrase Lady, I have no problem with it. I think that it is a statement of respect. I see nothing sexist about it. And I venture to call men Gentlemen on a rather frequent basis. But only if they are deserving of my respect. I understand what Bernd is saying, but I don't know of a non-gender word that could replace lady and gentleman, so those are the words that I use.

Even the slang words like wench, b!tch, or ho, I don't find sexist. I find them degrading. The attitude with which they are said is probably sexist, but the words are only words.

What I do find sexist is when I'm referred to in my husband's name...Mrs. John Smith (no, his name isn't really John Smith ). Especially, since I didn't take on his last name when we got married. I find that tradition of a woman changing her name highly sexist, as though she doesn't deserve her own identity. I told my Hubby that if he wanted us to have the same name, he was welcome to change his. He chose to keep his maiden name.

I don't mind when someone holds open the door for me. It's just a nice gesture. And I always say Thank You. I often hold the door open for other people...men and women. I get mad if they don't thank me for doing so (and I usually yell YOU'RE WELCOME after them, to let them know that they were rude).

Sexism is an attitude and it goes both ways. I think that it's sexist for a woman to expect a man to open a door for her, or to pay for dinner, etc, just because he's a man.

I used to call myself a feminist. Now I call myself a humanist. Treat me (and everyone) with respect and I'll treat you the same way. Cross the line and either I'll ignore you or you'll feel my wrath...depending on my mood. Luckily, lines aren't crossed too often on this site (or maybe I'm just not easily offended). I think that, for the most part, we all respect each other. And if we don't, then we are at least respectful of each other.

And while I appreciate markw's sentiment in calling me a lady and being concerned that I was offended, there was nothing to read into my comment. I was just making a joke.

Great post F.A.

My wife also kept her maiden name. Why anybody would want to surrender their identiy is beyond me.
And I agree that sexism is an attitude. I just don't like the class term of Lady or Gentleman. No biggie. Far to much is placed on that surface terminology. Look beyond the facade and you most likely come across selfishness and a complete spiritual desert.
I believe that what you do and the values you live by count for much more than being called a L. or a G. What's wrong with being called a man or a woman.
Do no harm. That's what matters.

Peace

[ForeverAutumn]

My wife also kept her maiden name.
Peace

She didn't keep her maiden name. She simply kept her name.

tsk. tsk.

[kexodusc]

She didn't keep her maiden name. She simply kept her name.

tsk. tsk.

LOL...You sound like my wife (who also kept her name, btw, it sounds better that way).

Sexism is an attitude and it goes both ways. I think that it's sexist for a woman to expect a man to open a door for her, or to pay for dinner, etc, just because he's a man.

Okay, you and she might disagree here...I think she's a feminist-by-convenience. She let's me pay for dinner, but refuses to spell "womyn" with a "y". Can't say I blame her. I like it when she pays for dinner, too.

I dunno, I think the onus is on men to be more aware of sexist behavior than women. I'm sure it exists both ways, but I'm not aware of as much sexist behavior on the part of women that reduces the quality of life for men by the same degree in which sexist men can affect women.

[GMichael]

LOL...You sound like my wife (who also kept her name, btw, it sounds better that way).


Okay, you and she might disagree here...I think she's a feminist-by-convenience. She let's me pay for dinner, but refuses to spell "womyn" with a "y". Can't say I blame her. I like it when she pays for dinner, too.

I dunno, I think the onus is on men to be more aware of sexist behavior than women. I'm sure it exists both ways, but I'm not aware of as much sexist behavior on the part of women that reduces the quality of life for men by the same degree in which sexist men can affect women.

I take it on a case by case bases. Any women or womyn or lady who treats me fair, will be treated fair right back. Any of them who are mad at me for something some other guy has done will be avoided. I didn't do it and shouldn't have to pay for it. I'll hold a door open for a guy or a gal equally. If they get mad at me for it, then I pitty their miserable lives. If they don't say thank you, I may say you're welcome as FA does. Or I may just roll my eyes and go on with life.
My wife took my name. But not because I expected her to. It's part of how she grew up and she expected it of herself. I wouldn't have had a problem if she didn't.
I do understand what JM and Bernd are saying about the "lady" label. Some (mostly younger) women feel that a lady is subservient. That it means that they do the cooking & cleaning, stay home and "serve her man." I don't see it that way but will fight for their right to think what they want. I'll call them what they want to be called. My idea of a lady was always a woman with class, but never thought of a woman as a lady without it.

Hey, how did this happen? I never get serious. Who did this to me? Where's the punch line? When do I get to make a joke.

See what you did FA?

[Resident Loser]

She didn't keep her maiden name. She simply kept her name.

tsk. tsk.

...If we assume she was a maiden prior to marriage (nothing personal Bernd) and no longer one after marriage, then it was indeed her maiden name...Dislike the term as you will, it's used for identification purposes and has significant legal import...

jimHJJ(...apply for a loan and you'll see what I mean...)