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What's a "Reputation"?
I went in my User Control Panel this afternoon and found that I had a reputation (who knew!?). It was awarded to me on April 13 at 4:57pm. I have 11 points. It appears to be due to the Rave Recs thread about our Top 10 Desert Island albums.
So what does this mean? Are these 11 points good or bad? Can I buy stuff with them? When did we start rating each other's reputations?
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Originally Posted by ForeverAutumn
I went in my User Control Panel this afternoon and found that I had a reputation (who knew!?). It was awarded to me on April 13 at 4:57pm. I have 11 points. It appears to be due to the Rave Recs thread about our Top 10 Desert Island albums.
So what does this mean? Are these 11 points good or bad? Can I buy stuff with them? When did we start rating each other's reputations?
A reputation for girls is different than one for a guy. The double standards are in full play here. Although, these days it's reversed. A girl with (let's say) high mileage is worth more than one who's only been around the block once or twice.
11 points are good. No, you can't buy anything with them. (NOT EVEN SHOES!) But you may be able to barter for more if you play your cards right.
Just a few weeks ago. Ericl made note of it. You may have been out that day.
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Hmmm, how do we see how many rep points we have? And how do i raise or lower it?
A man's got nothin' without his rep....
Ha ha, I just gave you guys reputation points I think....you earned...from now on, every Lost thread post gets a point...unless there's too much talking and I get lazy.
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Originally Posted by kexodusc
Hmmm, how do we see how many rep points we have? And how do i raise or lower it?
A man's got nothin' without his rep....
Click on user CP in the upper left.
Then down to Latest Reputation Received.
No way to change your own. You'll need someone to scratch your back for you.
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Originally Posted by GMichael
Click on user CP in the upper left.
Then down to Latest Reputation Received.
No way to change your own. You'll need someone to scratch your back for you.
Great, so a little bit of mutual masturbation will artificially inflate an arbitrary point scheme system that I can't even see? Sign me up buddy!
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Originally Posted by GMichael
A reputation for girls is different than one for a guy. The double standards are in full play here. Although, these days it's reversed. A girl with (let's say) high mileage is worth more than one who's only been around the block once or twice.
:lol: :lol: :lol:
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Originally Posted by GMichael
A reputation for girls is different than one for a guy. The double standards are in full play here. Although, these days it's reversed. A girl with (let's say) high mileage is worth more than one who's only been around the block once or twice.
11 points are good. No, you can't buy anything with them. (NOT EVEN SHOES!) But you may be able to barter for more if you play your cards right.
Just a few weeks ago. Ericl made note of it. You may have been out that day.
If I can't use these points to buy shoes (or, at least, an Audio Review T-shirt) then why do I care???
And there's a little blue box beside markw's comments. Does that mean that he gave me a bad reputation? Did I lose points (not that I care)?
How does the point system work? Earlier today I had one comment and 11 points. Now I have 4 comments and 27 points. The math doesn't work (unless markw took points away from me). Again...not that I care.
Where did Ericl make note of it? I missed it. Was it on this board or another? (I care about that 'cause I hate not knowing stuff).
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Originally Posted by kexodusc
Great, so a little bit of mutual masturbation will artificially inflate an arbitrary point scheme system that I can't even see? Sign me up buddy!
Can you guys take this to the other side of the beach please. I don't care if it's only artificially inflated...no-one here needs to see that.
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No, I didn't give you a bad rep.
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Originally Posted by ForeverAutumn
If I can't use these points to buy shoes (or, at least, an Audio Review T-shirt) then why do I care???
And there's a little blue box beside markw's comments. Does that mean that he gave me a bad reputation? Did I lose points (not that I care)?
How does the point system work? Earlier today I had one comment and 11 points. Now I have 4 comments and 27 points. The math doesn't work (unless markw took points away from me). Again...not that I care.
Where did Ericl make note of it? I missed it. Was it on this board or another? (I care about that 'cause I hate not knowing stuff).
On other sites, they show up green for a good rep and red for a bad rep. That's the same here, but it seems that, for some reason, some "good" reps show up as grey.
Trust me, I didn't slam you. I gave you a good rep (clicked the "I approve" button) and a comment to welcome you. One of those 27 points is the one I gave you.
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Originally Posted by markw
One of those 27 points is the one I gave you.
The other 26 are all me....how's that for back scratchin? :ihih:
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Originally Posted by markw
On other sites, they show up green for a good rep and red for a bad rep. That's the same here, but it seems that, for some reason, some "good" reps show up as grey.
Trust me, I didn't slam you. I gave you a good rep (clicked the "I approve" button) and a comment to welcome you. One of those 27 points is the one I gave you.
Thanks Mark. I didn't think that you would intentionally slam me, but didn't know why your's was the only one that wasn't green. The grey ones must be extra special. ;)
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Originally Posted by Kex
The other 26 are all me....how's that for back scratchin?
Mmmmmm. A little to the left. That's it. :thumbsup:
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Originally Posted by ForeverAutumn
Where did Ericl make note of it?
Here.
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It's not a "point per comment" system. Members with more posts, count higher than newbies. New members with less than some unknown number of posts can only leave grey dots.
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Thanks guys.
I think it would be more fun if you could see who gave you the reputation (good or bad) without relying on the comments section. But then again....I could give you all bad reps and you wouldn't know it was me. teeheehee.
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Originally Posted by ForeverAutumn
Thanks guys.
I think it would be more fun if you could see who gave you the reputation (good or bad) without relying on the comments section. But then again....I could give you all bad reps and you wouldn't know it was me. teeheehee.
I would know. My ESP is tuned in very sharp today.
Hey! Put that finger DOWN!
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Originally Posted by ForeverAutumn
Thanks guys.
I think it would be more fun if you could see who gave you the reputation (good or bad) without relying on the comments section. But then again....I could give you all bad reps and you wouldn't know it was me. teeheehee.
I think it's better that it's unknown. It could very quickly turn into a Simpson group-shock-therapy type brawl if we knew who gave out what.
"What, you gave me negative points? I'll show you. And you're friends, too, just for associating with you. And him, just because his name reminds me too much of yours."
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How many post as does one need to turn that blue into green?
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Originally Posted by GMichael
It's not a "point per comment" system. Members with more posts, count higher than newbies. New members with less than some unknown number of posts can only leave grey dots.
Inquiring minds want to know...
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Originally Posted by markw
Inquiring minds want to know...
I didn't see that answer in the tutorial.
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careful FA.......
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Originally Posted by ForeverAutumn
Can you guys take this to the other side of the beach please. I don't care if it's only artificially inflated...no-one here needs to see that.
.........Some of the fellas here may actually use artificial inflation.
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All I know is Joan Jett "don't give a damn 'bout her reputation."
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Originally Posted by daviethek
.........Some of the fellas here may actually use artificial inflation.
Please recommend me one that has a self-cleaning mode.
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Originally Posted by jrhymeammo
Please recommend me one that has a self-cleaning mode.
But what happens if you say, activate the cleaning mode while you're still using it?
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Originally Posted by GMichael
But what happens if you say, activate the cleaning mode while you're still using it?
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Then I'll say:
"Listen here Wifey, could wait another 30 seconds?"
:yikes:
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You guys do realize Forever Autumn is a lady, don't you?
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Originally Posted by markw
You guys do realize Forever Autumn is a lady, don't you?
She is a woman and I would have to meet her to determine if she was a lady.:)
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Originally Posted by JohnMichael
She is a woman and I would have to meet her to determine if she was a lady.:)
Well, I guess I'll define a lady as a female/woman with class. Using that as my ruler, judging from her posts here, I feel comfortable in referring to her as a lady.
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Originally Posted by markw
Well, I guess I'll define a lady as a female/woman with class. Using that as my ruler, judging from her posts here, I feel comfortable in referring to her as a lady.
Ditto. But she doesn't seem to mind us joking with her.
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One of the interesting ideas about the term lady I learned from some of my womyn friends. They percieve the term lady as sexist. When you tell a woman to act like a lady there is a certain mental framework of behaviors expected. Think Laura Bush. On the other hand I know someone who will say that it takes breeding and class to become a lady. Which again is a narrow stereotype of a woman's expected behaviors.
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Originally Posted by JohnMichael
One of the interesting ideas about the term lady I learned from some of my womyn friends. They percieve the term lady as sexist. When you tell a woman to act like a lady there is a certain mental framework of behaviors expected. Think Laura Bush. On the other hand I know someone who will say that it takes breeding and class to become a lady. Which again is a narrow stereotype of a woman's expected behaviors.
Well said JM.:thumbsup: :thumbsup: :thumbsup:
My wife hates the term "Lady". IMHO-You're either a decent human being or you're not. Simple really.:)
Or it should be.
Peace
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Originally Posted by markw
Well, I guess I'll define a lady as a female/woman with class. Using that as my ruler, judging from her posts here, I feel comfortable in referring to her as a lady.
...then again, you probably hold doors open, etc. You are an anachronism...a dinosaur...you sexist pig!
I guess the alternative of callin' 'em all ho's is more au courant, the more acceptable, contemporary nomenclature...Hmm...no, maybe not...Imus be mistaken...
jimHJJ(...then, of course, you have the "womyn" aspect in all if it's herstorical glory...)
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It would be interesting to get FA's opinion on this.
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Originally Posted by JohnMichael
One of the interesting ideas about the term lady I learned from some of my womyn friends. They percieve the term lady as sexist. When you tell a woman to act like a lady there is a certain mental framework of behaviors expected. Think Laura Bush. On the other hand I know someone who will say that it takes breeding and class to become a lady. Which again is a narrow stereotype of a woman's expected behaviors.
I would be interested if she felt either honored or insulted by my calling her that.
Maybe it's a generational thing, but virtually every female I've ever run across (no exceptions) of any age found being called a lady a compliment simply because it implies breeding and class, which can transend many self-imposed barriers.
And,anyone that insists that woman be spelled "womyn" and defines the therm "lady" as sexist has issues of their (note I didn't say "her") own. After all, lady is, and has always been, simply the female counterpart of gentleman. Do any natural born males find this sexist?
In the meantime, it seems you're all just trying to rationalize the continued use of gutter talk in her thread. IMNSHO, she subtly (as a lady would) expressed mild displeasure with it initially, but several here took that as tacit approval and played off of it. It's as if some here can't take a subtle hint.
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Originally Posted by Bernd
Well said JM.:thumbsup: :thumbsup: :thumbsup:
My wife hates the term "Lady". IMHO-You're either a decent human being or you're not. Simple really.:)
Or it should be.
Peace
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Maybe she isn't a lady? Just wondering...
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Well, this thread certainly has taken an interesting turn.
In regards to the phrase Lady, I have no problem with it. I think that it is a statement of respect. I see nothing sexist about it. And I venture to call men Gentlemen on a rather frequent basis. But only if they are deserving of my respect. I understand what Bernd is saying, but I don't know of a non-gender word that could replace lady and gentleman, so those are the words that I use.
Even the slang words like wench, b!tch, or ho, I don't find sexist. I find them degrading. The attitude with which they are said is probably sexist, but the words are only words.
What I do find sexist is when I'm referred to in my husband's name...Mrs. John Smith (no, his name isn't really John Smith :rolleyes: ). Especially, since I didn't take on his last name when we got married. I find that tradition of a woman changing her name highly sexist, as though she doesn't deserve her own identity. I told my Hubby that if he wanted us to have the same name, he was welcome to change his. He chose to keep his maiden name.
I don't mind when someone holds open the door for me. It's just a nice gesture. And I always say Thank You. I often hold the door open for other people...men and women. I get mad if they don't thank me for doing so (and I usually yell YOU'RE WELCOME after them, to let them know that they were rude).
Sexism is an attitude and it goes both ways. I think that it's sexist for a woman to expect a man to open a door for her, or to pay for dinner, etc, just because he's a man.
I used to call myself a feminist. Now I call myself a humanist. Treat me (and everyone) with respect and I'll treat you the same way. Cross the line and either I'll ignore you or you'll feel my wrath...depending on my mood. Luckily, lines aren't crossed too often on this site (or maybe I'm just not easily offended). I think that, for the most part, we all respect each other. And if we don't, then we are at least respectful of each other.
And while I appreciate markw's sentiment in calling me a lady and being concerned that I was offended, there was nothing to read into my comment. I was just making a joke.
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Originally Posted by markw
Maybe she isn't a lady? Just wondering...
Well, well, well - what have we got here. A real brave internet warrior. I doubt you would come out with crap like that standing in front of me.
As I said, You're either a decent human being or you're not. Just wondering too.....but maybe, on second thoughts, I don't need to anymore.
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Originally Posted by ForeverAutumn
Well, this thread certainly has taken an interesting turn.
In regards to the phrase Lady, I have no problem with it. I think that it is a statement of respect. I see nothing sexist about it. And I venture to call men Gentlemen on a rather frequent basis. But only if they are deserving of my respect. I understand what Bernd is saying, but I don't know of a non-gender word that could replace lady and gentleman, so those are the words that I use.
Even the slang words like wench, b!tch, or ho, I don't find sexist. I find them degrading. The attitude with which they are said is probably sexist, but the words are only words.
What I do find sexist is when I'm referred to in my husband's name...Mrs. John Smith (no, his name isn't really John Smith :rolleyes: ). Especially, since I didn't take on his last name when we got married. I find that tradition of a woman changing her name highly sexist, as though she doesn't deserve her own identity. I told my Hubby that if he wanted us to have the same name, he was welcome to change his. He chose to keep his maiden name.
I don't mind when someone holds open the door for me. It's just a nice gesture. And I always say Thank You. I often hold the door open for other people...men and women. I get mad if they don't thank me for doing so (and I usually yell YOU'RE WELCOME after them, to let them know that they were rude).
Sexism is an attitude and it goes both ways. I think that it's sexist for a woman to expect a man to open a door for her, or to pay for dinner, etc, just because he's a man.
I used to call myself a feminist. Now I call myself a humanist. Treat me (and everyone) with respect and I'll treat you the same way. Cross the line and either I'll ignore you or you'll feel my wrath...depending on my mood. Luckily, lines aren't crossed too often on this site (or maybe I'm just not easily offended). I think that, for the most part, we all respect each other. And if we don't, then we are at least respectful of each other.
And while I appreciate markw's sentiment in calling me a lady and being concerned that I was offended, there was nothing to read into my comment. I was just making a joke.
Great post F.A.:)
My wife also kept her maiden name. Why anybody would want to surrender their identiy is beyond me.
And I agree that sexism is an attitude. I just don't like the class term of Lady or Gentleman. No biggie. Far to much is placed on that surface terminology. Look beyond the facade and you most likely come across selfishness and a complete spiritual desert.
I believe that what you do and the values you live by count for much more than being called a L. or a G. What's wrong with being called a man or a woman.
Do no harm. That's what matters.
Peace
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So, what's your problem?
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Originally Posted by Bernd
Well, well, well - what have we got here. A real brave internet warrior. I doubt you would come out with crap like that standing in front of me.
As I said, You're either a decent human being or you're not. Just wondering too.....but maybe, on second thoughts, I don't need to anymore.
You said your wife doesn't want to be called a lady. So I simply asceded to her wishes and paid her the compliment you say she desired.
After all, I never said she wasn't a good person, just not a lady which, as per your prior post, is exactly what she wants.
Make up your mind. Either you want your wife to be regarded as a lady, or you don't. Ya can't have it both ways. The fact that you rile when, as per your wishes, she's said to not be a lady makes you seen a bit of a hypocrite. I suggest you think about what you really want.
As I said earlier, I've never met a woman who didn't feel complimented when referred to as a lady. No exceptions. Your wife is no different, no matter what you say.
Me? I'm happy and proud that Mrs W. is regarded by all who know her as a lady, and neither of us would have it any other way.
and, yeah. I would say that in front of you.
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It's a real....
....shame, you had to drag this thread down to your level.
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Originally Posted by ForeverAutumn
Well, this thread certainly has taken an interesting turn.
In regards to the phrase Lady, I have no problem with it. I think that it is a statement of respect. I see nothing sexist about it. And I venture to call men Gentlemen on a rather frequent basis. But only if they are deserving of my respect. I understand what Bernd is saying, but I don't know of a non-gender word that could replace lady and gentleman, so those are the words that I use.
Even the slang words like wench, b!tch, or ho, I don't find sexist. I find them degrading. The attitude with which they are said is probably sexist, but the words are only words.
What I do find sexist is when I'm referred to in my husband's name...Mrs. John Smith (no, his name isn't really John Smith :rolleyes: ). Especially, since I didn't take on his last name when we got married. I find that tradition of a woman changing her name highly sexist, as though she doesn't deserve her own identity. I told my Hubby that if he wanted us to have the same name, he was welcome to change his. He chose to keep his maiden name.
I don't mind when someone holds open the door for me. It's just a nice gesture. And I always say Thank You. I often hold the door open for other people...men and women. I get mad if they don't thank me for doing so (and I usually yell YOU'RE WELCOME after them, to let them know that they were rude).
Sexism is an attitude and it goes both ways. I think that it's sexist for a woman to expect a man to open a door for her, or to pay for dinner, etc, just because he's a man.
I used to call myself a feminist. Now I call myself a humanist. Treat me (and everyone) with respect and I'll treat you the same way. Cross the line and either I'll ignore you or you'll feel my wrath...depending on my mood. Luckily, lines aren't crossed too often on this site (or maybe I'm just not easily offended). I think that, for the most part, we all respect each other. And if we don't, then we are at least respectful of each other.
And while I appreciate markw's sentiment in calling me a lady and being concerned that I was offended, there was nothing to read into my comment. I was just making a joke.
Bravo FA,
I knew there was a reason I liked you.
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How? By calling FA a lady?
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Originally Posted by Bernd
....shame, you had to drag this thread down to your level.
Get real. It seems only you and JM seemed to have a problem with it and, had you simply let your wife speak for herself, you would never have been involved.
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There you go again....
....with your sweeping statements.
Quote [As I said earlier, I've never met a woman who didn't feel complimented when referred to as a lady. No exceptions. Your wife is no different, no matter what you say.]
You don't know me or my wife, nor have you got the faintest idea how she feels or would feel.
And your comment about my wife was purely put to provoke. But then it takes all sorts.
Call anyone a "Lady" who you like, it's your right. I happen not to like that terminology, and that is my right.
Wonder no more ...... me thinks.
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