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    OMG I am so

    bored.

    I have never been hit with such a case of boredom before. The best part of my day is when I am walking my dog. Well and around 8 PM when I have my first glass of wine.

    My first complaint is my job. I enjoy giving care to the sick and infirmmed. I had been assisting a couple and the husband was suffering from 4 types of cancer with the bone cancer causing the most pain. He has passed and I am helping his wife. She has some issues but I am not using my skills. I am more of a butler. She loves to be critical of all and is very manipulative.

    My next complaint involves this city in which I live. The village will never be short an idiot. They are waiting in line to fill the position. I was asked at a store "How are you today"? I said "I am well, thanks, and you"? The clerk laughed and said she had never heard that before. We have more churches and pizza parlors than anywhere else. Of course we do have quite a few bars but few places you would stop for a drink unless your wallet is attached to a chain.

    There is not an art, or music scene. Entertainment is based on diagonal inches and who has the biggest flat screen. We have no book stores so a Kindle is needed.

    Sorry just needed to b!tch. I just need an adventure or a stimulating conversation. I also need a new job where I would be challenged.
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    Quote Originally Posted by JohnMichael View Post
    bored.

    I have never been hit with such a case of boredom before. The best part of my day is when I am walking my dog. Well and around 8 PM when I have my first glass of wine.

    My first complaint is my job. I enjoy giving care to the sick and infirmmed. I had been assisting a couple and the husband was suffering from 4 types of cancer with the bone cancer causing the most pain. He has passed and I am helping his wife. She has some issues but I am not using my skills. I am more of a butler. She loves to be critical of all and is very manipulative.

    My next complaint involves this city in which I live. The village will never be short an idiot. They are waiting in line to fill the position. I was asked at a store "How are you today"? I said "I am well, thanks, and you"? The clerk laughed and said she had never heard that before. We have more churches and pizza parlors than anywhere else. Of course we do have quite a few bars but few places you would stop for a drink unless your wallet is attached to a chain.

    There is not an art, or music scene. Entertainment is based on diagonal inches and who has the biggest flat screen. We have no book stores so a Kindle is needed.

    Sorry just needed to b!tch. I just need an adventure or a stimulating conversation. I also need a new job where I would be challenged.
    So sorry Alt-Mike,
    I hope that you feel better soon. At least you have the doggie to keep you sane. And the wine. Can't forget the wine. What wine is on this week's list?
    It sounds like your job can be very rewarding, as well as upsetting. It's not much fun baby-sitting a critical, manipulative old biddy.
    You should move to our town. I think that you would enjoy our "artsy" atmosphere. We have music and/or art festivals every weekend. They are even in the middle of putting up a new library.
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    Don't get me started on being bored on the job or job complaints in general. (I've already aired a few that I won't belabour now.)

    Quote Originally Posted by JohnMichael View Post
    ... I was asked at a store "How are you today"? I said "I am well, thanks, and you"? The clerk laughed and said she had never heard that before...
    Geez, I say that all the time, but most people know what I mean. I don't know what she usually heard, maybe, "I'm good". When people offer me that reply, I'm inclined to say, "That's nice, but I was asking about your health, not your morals".

    Must be getting too old.

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    Let's get responsive rather than reactive.

    Send me a resume John, let's get you moved over to the big city. You'd love it here and, like most places in the country, healthcare opportunities abound. Besides, in a few years I may need you to take care of my folks.

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    Quote Originally Posted by JohnMichael View Post
    bored.

    I have never been hit with such a case of boredom before. The best part of my day is when I am walking my dog. Well and around 8 PM when I have my first glass of wine.
    If you are not going to move any time soon, why don't you work with your dog more since it does provide you some pleasure interacting with him. He sure is going to get a kick out of it if he is learning new things on a weekly basis.

    One of my Pit Bulls knows 75 different tricks and recall exercises. He is now learning agility, and at 82lbs it just blows folks away(Agility is usually associated with smaller more agile dogs, not Pit Bulls). My Pit/Lab mix knows 65 different tricks and recall exercises. Because he is so "nose" based, I am training him to track and learn lure coursing. Even my little Sh!tzu Bo knows 25 different commands and tricks even though everyone warned me it was difficult to train Sh!tzu's.

    I find training my dogs when I am bored really helps me, and them as well.

    However all of this is no substitute for more cultural stimulation. You need to move if you can.
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    Bobsticks I do need to update my resume and I am working on it these days. I am the absolute worst person at self promotion. Living where I do jobs in healthcare present themselves frequently. I have a bit of a reputation. No, not that one.

    Sir T I thought Corky was trained when he no longer had accidents in the apartment. Corky's problems with training is the trainer. I am not consistent with words or expectations. I am proud of the fact my dog loves everybody and has no prejudices. Men in uniform do not upset him, lucky for me.

    The place on this earth that I feel the most alive is in Quebec City. I would like to find a place in this country that I feel as strongly about. Last night in my dreams I was standing on the Plains of Abraham when I decided to walk to my favorite news stand for a new audio magazine. I am sure that in a past life I lived in Quebec City.

    If I move I have so much to pack with all my furniture, art, music and stereos. Not to mention my washer and dryer. Of course sadly I would have to pack up all my emotional baggage because no matter where I move I will be taking me with me. Of course living in a more positive area might give me better things to put in my baggage. Wow maybe I am having a mid-life crisis or could it be that last of many concussions?
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    John, it sounds to me like you badly need a change of scenery. Maybe you should consider a move. Is there anything, other than comfort, keeping you tied to where you are? Perhaps you should be looking for a health care job in another city.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ForeverAutumn View Post
    John, it sounds to me like you badly need a change of scenery. Maybe you should consider a move. Is there anything, other than comfort, keeping you tied to where you are? Perhaps you should be looking for a health care job in another city.


    I think the very first issue is being tired or burnt out with healthcare. I have either worked in a hospital or doing home care since 1989. A new city would be nice but not dealing with the same old employment issues. Sadly once you have been in a field for so long it is tough in this economy to change.

    It is not comfort that keeps me here but a low cost of living. That and the devil you know.
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    Quote Originally Posted by GMichael View Post
    So sorry Alt-Mike,
    I hope that you feel better soon. At least you have the doggie to keep you sane. And the wine. Can't forget the wine. What wine is on this week's list?
    It sounds like your job can be very rewarding, as well as upsetting. It's not much fun baby-sitting a critical, manipulative old biddy.
    You should move to our town. I think that you would enjoy our "artsy" atmosphere. We have music and/or art festivals every weekend. They are even in the middle of putting up a new library.
    Your town always sounds wonderful. I must visit and get a feel for the town. Do not worry just the town.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Feanor View Post
    Don't get me started on being bored on the job or job complaints in general. (I've already aired a few that I won't belabour now.)


    Geez, I say that all the time, but most people know what I mean. I don't know what she usually heard, maybe, "I'm good". When people offer me that reply, I'm inclined to say, "That's nice, but I was asking about your health, not your morals".

    Must be getting too old.


    When you speak correctly in this town you are accused of putting on airs. I have been told I intimidate people with the way I speak. In college I was told by an instructor during a jobs seeking class that I blew the interview. The gentleman interviewing me would be worried I would have his job soon if I was hired. It hurts my head to always put things in simpler terms.
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    John i forget... which city you live in again? Why don't you move closer to Columbus or hell, even up north to Cleveland? Sounds like you are out in the sticks.

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    Quote Originally Posted by JohnMichael View Post
    In college I was told by an instructor during a jobs seeking class that I blew the interview. The gentleman interviewing me would be worried I would have his job soon if I was hired.
    Your instructor sounds like he was insecure and an idiot to boot. Any boss worth his salt would want someone well-spoken and professional working for him...and if he's doing his (or her) job well shouldn't be worried about someone taking it from him.

    John, you are such a warm, caring, and intelligent person. You need to be with people who can recognize that and aren't threatened by it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ForeverAutumn View Post
    Your instructor sounds like he was insecure and an idiot to boot.

    John, you are such a warm, caring, and intelligent person. You need to be with people who can recognize that and aren't threatened by it.

    I think the instructor was just watching the reactions of the mock interviewer. She mentioned my grammar and my speaking in percfect tenses. When I told my grandmother she asked me to tell her I was not raised by apes.

    Sadly warm, caring and intelligence is not always valued. I have also practiced pacifism and that is seen as a weakness. Caring for older men leaves me open to ridicule because I do not follow or understand sports. I have not been married or had children. Since they rely on me they choose not to ask that question. The last one was blind so I could take my decorator magazines with me to work.

    When I was young I dreamt of living on a space station. I had a book that showed them as cities with residential areas and shopping. I was always ready to leave earth. I thought people on them would be kinder and smarter.
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    Quote Originally Posted by JohnMichael View Post
    When you speak correctly in this town you are accused of putting on airs. I have been told I intimidate people with the way I speak. In college I was told by an instructor during a jobs seeking class that I blew the interview. The gentleman interviewing me would be worried I would have his job soon if I was hired. It hurts my head to always put things in simpler terms.
    That's sad and frustrating.

    Today I'm retired and if somebody tells me my grammar is too good, I can tell most of to Eff Off and Die. (I also don't have to be polite to most people.)

    In the USA -- and even more so, Canada -- we have a lot of population who speak English only as a second language, so speaking in a traditionally precise way is considered almost discriminatory.

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    JM, might want to consider a new hobby like maybe going fishing and take the pooch with you. How about photography as a new hobby as well?
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    Quote Originally Posted by LeRoy View Post
    JM, might want to consider a new hobby like maybe going fishing and take the pooch with you. How about photography as a new hobby as well?

    I am afraid that my dog would not sit still long enough for a nibble on the hook. Now he does like to chase groundhogs. We have a lot of baby groundhogs this spring and summer and Corky loves watching them. He seems to know they are young and less experienced. Yesterday Corky sat and watched a young groundhog as the young groundhog watched him. They were only 5 Ft. from one another and for 20 minutes they watched and sniffed at the air. I was bored so I ended the party.

    Photography would not be a new hobby. Senior year in high school I did a lot of the photos for the yearbook. I earned the nickname of Kodak. I liked that so much more than f@g or the girl's nickname I was called for years. After high school I studied photography in college. After many years of photographing weddings, portraits, family events I missed photography as self expression. Now I enjoy travel photography.

    I have been spending less time on line as a substitute for socialization. I need to travel to Columbus more and visit museums, galleries and parks. I wanted to go Friday to a shopping area where they had art by various artists for sale. My luck I would have fallen in love with a painting I could ill afford.

    My current interest is interior design. I would love to tear down a kitchen wall where I work. Once the wall was down I would move
    the refrigerator to the exterior wall and build an island with a cook top and oven. The island would also have some seating at the opposite end from the cook top. This would open the house up and make it seem much larger.

    Several years ago I was invited by my upstairs neighbor to watch a movie. During the movie I kept looking around. He asked if anything was wrong. At the end of the movie I told him I was mentally rearranging his furniture. He wanted to see what I had in mind. Together we moved the furniture and he loved it. A much better use of space.

    There are a few design classes offered in Columbus that I may take. I have a lot to learn. Classes can be a good way to meet people. Oh and there are no expectations of overt masculinity.
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    How about Germany, Switzerland or England?
    We have a working socialized evil healthcare system, music, art and education for free!
    Ok the tax system sucks, except for Switzerland, but you can comfortably live from it and dont need a second or third job as a greeting specialist at Wallmart.

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    Quote Originally Posted by JohnMichael View Post
    My current interest is interior design. I would love to tear down a kitchen wall where I work. Once the wall was down I would move
    the refrigerator to the exterior wall and build an island with a cook top and oven. The island would also have some seating at the opposite end from the cook top. This would open the house up and make it seem much larger.

    Several years ago I was invited by my upstairs neighbor to watch a movie. During the movie I kept looking around. He asked if anything was wrong. At the end of the movie I told him I was mentally rearranging his furniture. He wanted to see what I had in mind. Together we moved the furniture and he loved it. A much better use of space.

    There are a few design classes offered in Columbus that I may take. I have a lot to learn. Classes can be a good way to meet people. Oh and there are no expectations of overt masculinity.
    John, you should definately follow this dream. It's never too late to change careers. You have such great taste from what I've seen that you would be a natural at this. And I'm sure that it would be much more fun than healthcare.

    You are welcome to come over and lend us your eye any time.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Florian View Post
    How about Germany, Switzerland or England?
    We have a working socialized evil healthcare system, music, art and education for free!
    Ok the tax system sucks, except for Switzerland, but you can comfortably live from it and dont need a second or third job as a greeting specialist at Wallmart.

    Chin up! It could be worse, you could be in Syria right now......

    You are right there are worse places I could be. Sadly wherever I go my baggage goes with me. I need to fix the current issues causing my unhappiness first.
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    Hio John,

    thats not what i meant. I think there is no place worse, except for Syria... but thats already quite tough! :-)
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    I can sort of relate to you JM with regards to "the way I talk".

    In the south, being the child of a Michigan mom, some kids called me a Yankee because I didn't speak with a drawl. I made a point speaking in a non-colloquial manner, just as a sort of protest. It'd usually rub some redneck the wrong way.

    In the military I avoided using a southern dialect because of the stereotypes that came along with an accent. When they found out where I grew up they were usually amazed I could speak without an accent. The southern people seemed to resent that I said I was from Tennessee but sounded the way I did.

    I don't have a southern accent, but as soon as anyone finds out I'm from the south, the jokes start to fly, even the stereotypes. It is assumed by almost everyone I encounter in the Pungent Sound (outside of Seattle) that being from the south means I: a) love country music, b) am religious, c) am racist and homophobic, d) own a gun, e) eat possum.

    One thing I've found in my travels is that outside the big cities, cultural diversity is undervalued everywhere. People tend to clannish and concerned with who lived where for the longest. And rednecks are not a "southern thing" but a rural phenomina, even in Canada, but mostly in the US. I was recently unfriended on Front Book by a few people when I responded to a post that went something like "Our country would be better off if all the illegals and foreigners would just go back to where they came from. This country should kick them all out". I responded that I had a couple of native american buddies that wanted to know how retro-active that sentiment was.

    It sucks to feel isolated. I feel that way a lot even though I'm married. The internet was a godsend to me in that I could finally converse with a like-minded human being. Sure, face to face communication might be more satisfying to some. If the internet ever 'breaks' I'm in trouble though, because I don't really seek out a lot of physical contact, neither have I cultivated a lot of friendships, opting mostly for on-line conversations about things that interest me, rather than feining interest in the things that occupy the locals. Besides, I'm very self-contained and that comes across as stand offish to some.

    Do you consider yourself to be a very social person, JM?
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    Am I a social person? Not left to my own devices. A wonderful young man named Arturo lived in the apartment above me and one day he asked if I would like to come up and watch a movie. He was lonely and I had just ended a relationship. We kind of clung to each other. We began to do a lot of things together.

    One day we went to the Istanbul Cafe and the owner was from Turkey and his wife was from the Dominican Republic. Arturo loved speaking Spanish to anyone he met of Spanish or Latin heritage. Like Arturo she was very warm and loving. Arturo always called me his angel since I befriended him at a lonely time for him. I was treated like a king/queen that day. Now when I take other friends to the restaurant I am greeted with hugs and taken to the best table. Specialties arrive at the table and the bill is never what it should be.

    As an introvert I would not have made that connection. Extroverted Arti made it very easy to be social. We had such a good time together and he easily brought me into the converstaion.

    I have been more social since adopting my dog. I now know all the dog owners in this large apartment complex. I am involved with the Humane Society. I go to all their social events/fund raisers.

    If there is nothing happening that includes my dog or we are out walking I am not very social. I find it easier to be indoors. I have to fight the desire to be agorophobic.

    Due to past events I am fearful of people and their intentions. Living with hate, prejudice and abuse I think I stay here for the devil I know.
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    Quote Originally Posted by JohnMichael View Post
    Due to past events I am fearful of people and their intentions. Living with hate, prejudice and abuse I think I stay here for the devil I know.
    John, having met you, although briefly, my impression of you is that you are a warm, caring, intelligent man with a fantastic sense of humour. While I can appreciate your reluctance to leave the devil you know, you need to find someplace where you can be yourself without fear. Because "yourself" is a wonderful person who deserves to be happy. There are many cities that you could live in that would accept you with open arms and embrace who you are.

    If I may play armchair psychiatrist for a moment (and by all means tell me to go to hell and mind my own business if you want to). It sounds to me like you're in a bit of a rut. You're not happy where you are but you're afraid to make changes. Change is scary. But I have a feeling that if you took the gigantic step to move someplace where you would be accepted, after a few months you'll be wondering what took you so long and regretting the time that you wasted being unhappy.

    I know that, in the past, you have helped other men going through difficult times. If you could look at your situation more objectively...pretend that you are helping a young man in exactly your situation...what advice would you give him?

    I know it's easy for me to say. But sometimes an outsider can see things more clearly than we can see things ourselves. You've said yourself that when you are in Quebec City or Paris you feel more alive, that you're happy there. Why not make a move that would allow you to feel that way always? If it doesn't work out you can always move back.

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    I'm not so much introverted, but I am Type-B personality all the way. I hate codependency.

    I've never really experienced the type of harassment you describe. I am a cycling enthusiast (no, not a hardcore cyclist) and on two occasions I've been brushed by vehicles on purpose, once with 2yr old son in tow. Some people hate cyclists I guess.

    If and when I do want to experience some culture I live smack in the middle of diversity. Bellingham is a college town, pretty decent art scene, very much a hippy vibe though. We're about an hour drive from either Seattle or Vancouver, BC. Lots of outdoorsy mountain stuff too. And of course there's the Sound, a few lakes. If only we had good weather. It is getting really expensive to live here though.
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