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    Why do women give mix signal

    Never mind, I will figure it somehow. Thanks John
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    I have no problem understanding women.
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    Quote Originally Posted by JohnMichael View Post
    I have no problem understanding women.
    Then maybe you can explain to me what is happening here because I sure don't

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    I am not sure what

    it is meet statics with no response.

    means.
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    Quote Originally Posted by JohnMichael View Post
    I am not sure what

    it is meet statics with no response.

    means.
    That was just dramatic way saying that some of her response is not the kind of answer I am looking for, or correct response to my hints.

    I'm thinking it might just be me reading the signals wrong. I need to wake up and smell the coffee

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    It's because what women really want in a man is totally different than what they find attractive in a man.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Smokey View Post
    Then maybe you can explain to me what is happening here because I sure don't

    I get in trouble with my straight guy friends because they expect me to take their sides in arguments when I can better understand how the wife feels.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Smokey View Post
    Never mind, I will figure it somehow. Thanks John

    Seriously I was not sure what you are asking until I read the post you deleted. I would like to undelete that post with your permission.
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    Thanks everybody

    Quote Originally Posted by JohnMichael View Post
    Seriously I was not sure what you are asking until I read the post you deleted. I would like to undelete that post with your permission.
    If you can go head and undeleted it

    I also edited the original post #1 which I thought might have got too personal. It was just about one of my female coworker giving me mix signals regarding hanging out together.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Smokey View Post
    If you can go head and undeleted it

    I also edited the original post #1 which I thought might have got too personal. It was just about one of my female coworker giving me mix signals regarding hanging out together.

    Maybe she is unsure about what she wants. There is always the concern about if things go sour how will it be at work? It might be better to plan a group get together of co-workers and see how she reacts in that situation.
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    Thanks John for advice

    I also feel the same way as I am very wary of getting involve with a coworker for the reason you mentioned. Feels like walking on a mine field.

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    hooking up with co-worker is destined for trouble. your much better off getting a dog that cuddles...
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    Quote Originally Posted by Smokey View Post
    That was just dramatic way saying that some of her response is not the kind of answer I am looking for, or correct response to my hints.
    I'm trying to read between the lines here to figure out the exact issue to see if, as a woman, I can give you some insight. But just based on this sentence above, if you are only giving her HINTS, then perhaps you are the one sending mixed signals. She may be as confused/frustrated as you are.

    I'm thinking it might just be me reading the signals wrong. I need to wake up and smell the coffee
    Or maybe just ask her out for lunch; stop hinting and being subtle and take a risk. What's the worst thing that can happen?

    Quote Originally Posted by dingus
    hooking up with co-worker is destined for trouble.
    I have to respectfully disagree. I met my husband at work and I know, at least, six other happy couples who met at work. But a relationship with a co-worker does have to be handled very carefully. In our case, my husband and I kept our relationship secret from everyone at work (other than our closest friends) for about six months...until we were sure that it was going somewhere. Then we showed up at the Christmas party together and made quite the stir among the gossipers. That was fun!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Smokey View Post
    Never mind, I will figure it somehow. Thanks John
    But, if you DO succeed in figuring this out, the rest of us guys would appreciate your sharing the answer with us.

    As for getting involved with a co-worker, be vewy, vewy careful. If things blow up in your face, there's no escaping it and it could adversely affect your careers. ...particularly if this has anything to do with your having trouble reading her.
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    Quote Originally Posted by ForeverAutumn View Post
    ... I met my husband at work and I know, at least, six other happy couples who met at work. But a relationship with a co-worker does have to be handled very carefully. In our case, my husband and I kept our relationship secret from everyone at work (other than our closest friends) for about six months...until we were sure that it was going somewhere. Then we showed up at the Christmas party together and made quite the stir among the gossipers. That was fun!
    do you think your experience is the rule or the exception,.... or is it just a Canadian thing?
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    Quote Originally Posted by dingus View Post
    do you think your experience is the rule or the exception,.... or is it just a Canadian thing?
    It must be just a Canadian thing.

    Seriously though. There is no doubt that you must be very careful and weigh the pros and cons of getting involved with someone at work. If you're the boss and the person reports to you, that could be big, big trouble. I would avoid that situation at all costs. But if you're in positions where bad feelings from a fight or breakup doesn't have to affect your job, it's easier.

    In my case, we worked in different departments and on different floors. We never worked together and we didn't have to see each other during the day if we didn't want to. So if things didn't work out, it wasn't really going to affect my job too much.

    But whether or not to date at work isn't really Smokey's question. It sounds like he's alreay decided that's not a problem for him. The problem is whether the woman is really interested or not...if I'm reading his cryptic posts correctly.
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    Quote Originally Posted by ForeverAutumn
    But a relationship with a co-worker does have to be handled very carefully. In our case, my husband and I kept our relationship secret from everyone at work (other than our closest friends) for about six months...until we were sure that it was going somewhere.
    That is excatly the way we are doing it. We had mutual agreement to keep it a secret (thank God for texting) because of pitfalls of getting involve with a coworker.

    I think she is more reluctant than I am thus hesitation. My hints have been very subtle (but not misunderestood) and low key, and I think she is more comfortable with that approach.

    Quote Originally Posted by markw
    But, if you DO succeed in figuring this out, the rest of us guys would appreciate your sharing the answer with us.
    All I can say about that matter is Don't Do It. The emotional cost will be too high...hence my signature

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    Why ask a question when you already know the answer???

    "Why do women give mixed signals????"

    "Because they're women!!!!!!!"

    Ye gads man haven't you been paying attention at all???

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    When in doubt use the direct approach and simply state the obvious and point out the pitfalls of this type of activity. But first you need to asked yourself are you interested in this being more than just hanging out with a co-worker. If you are attracted to this person and they are not in rerturn could lead you down a path of resintment. So just be upfront with yourself and them and then you know where you stand. This hinting game is what causes so much friction between men and women or in any type of relationship. Stop playing games!
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    Quote Originally Posted by recoveryone View Post
    When in doubt use the direct approach and simply state the obvious and point out the pitfalls of this type of activity. But first you need to asked yourself are you interested in this being more than just hanging out with a co-worker. If you are attracted to this person and they are not in rerturn could lead you down a path of resintment.
    Really we haven't done nothing yet, so there is no resentments.

    I am attracted to this person, but to me she looks like having too many doubts. So I have decided to pull back as I was emotional wreck and could not handle it anymore. I also quit texing to speed up the healing process and it seem to work.

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    Oh for gawd sakes Smokey. Get out your club, hit the woman on the head, and drag her back to your cave and be done with it.

    If it is this difficult to get to know her better, then maybe the stars are just not aligned right at this time. Maybe it is good you backed off, so you can live to nestle another day. In saying this, I am with Sticks on this one. I don't care how hot the woman is, If she works with me its hands off. I have seen with my own eyes what happens when the train goes off the rails.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Sir Terrence the Terrible View Post
    Oh for gawd sakes Smokey. Get out your club, hit the woman on the head, and drag her back to your cave and be done with it.
    Hehhehehe...that's what I should've done from the beginning

    If it is this difficult to get to know her better, then maybe the stars are just not aligned right at this time.
    Couldn't have said it better myself
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